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Mind Set: Don't Feel Guilty

The experience of guilt is an enormous burden. People actually feel guilty for feeling guilty. Often, those in the religious community are prone to complain about guilt. They perceive God as the ‘cop in the sky’ who is looking to apply retribution. Adults who were the products of poor parenting are more susceptible to real guilt and viewing God is a tyrannical figure.

Unfortunately, people may doubt their salvation, feel like God has abandoned them and immerse themselves in obsessing over minor infractions.

It is my opinion that we need to kick out any God that would make us feel small. A loving God cherishes His children, forgives them and elevates them in His eyes. We are His kings and queens, and we need to stand tall in His presence.

Real guilt can be defined as missing the mark. We fall short of our convictions and need to make amends. We do this by accepting the forgiveness that is already our inheritance, forgiving ourselves for being less than perfect and reconciling with those we have hurt and disappointed.

An interesting example of real guilt is when we fail to live up to our capacity. We may have been sitting on a goal or dream and put it off because we are too lazy or afraid to act on it. Addressing our true guilt makes us feel complete. We restore our integrity and bring healing to our significant relationships.

Those who have experienced negative parenting may find the concept of forgiveness perplexing. If one’s parents were punitive, critical and unloving, it makes it more difficult for people to grasp the concept of a loving, forgiving God. Intellectually, they may understand forgiveness, but emotionally they may remain immobilised with self-blame. God does not want His children to victim-posture. We can’t be ambassadors of the good news if we are stuck in a sinkhole. Accepting forgiveness is our right and responsibility. Some may need help in processing this truth - God is patient.

It is important to differentiate real guilt from false guilt. Much of the guilt we experience is false. It has nothing to do with falling short of our convictions. I define false guilt as allowing other people to have power over us. Due to inadequate parenting, many of us learn to give our power away.

As children, we become overly-compliant, passive-aggressive and we learn that it is in our best interest to thwart our anger. If we were raised in dysfunctional families, there was generally no dialogue or exploration of feelings at home. It is important to understand that what happened was never our fault.

When people tell me that they feel guilty, the problem usually involves false guilt over core childhood issues such as feelings of abandonment, acting overly-responsible, childhood abuse, and lack of confidence. False guilt is actually a form of disguised resentment. If others over-control our lives, we resent the intrusion, but find false guilt easier to accept than anger.

Roberta came to me and complained about her daughter. Whenever she would visit her, she would feel demeaned and manipulated. I suggested that Roberta set limits and cut back on her lengthy out-of-town visitations with her daughter. However, her daughter pleaded with Roberta to stay longer, and the false guilt emerged.

Roberta decided to stay for the typical two-week visit and she felt miserable. In typical fashion, her daughter merely used her as a babysitter for her kids. Roberta was really angry, but it was masked as false guilt. As a child, she was never allowed to express her anger appropriately. Roberta had no foundation for setting boundaries and sticking up for herself. She acquiesced to the needs of others and felt small.

Unresolved issues can affect our concept of God. If we fail to find balance in our life by resolving core childhood issues, they may rear their ugly head and affect our spiritual well-being. I believe that God wants us to be integrated. That means we don’t pretend by ignoring the dusty corners of our inner life. As author M Scott Peck once said, “I’m not okay, you’re not okay, but it’s okay!” We must learn to live authentically as imperfect human beings.

Real or false guilt can immobilise us. As a child of God, there is no need to be saddled with guilt. Guilt keeps us mired in a cycle of self-defeating thinking and behaviour. To my knowledge, no one has ever changed by motivating themselves through guilt.

With true guilt, learning to forgive ourselves, making amends and accepting God’s grace brings healing that helps us move forward. False guilt, which comprises the majority of guilt, must prompt us to learn to become assertive, set appropriate boundaries, and find empowerment through the kind of righteous anger that is self-supportive.

Do you feel guilty about feeling guilty? The good news is that God wants to elevate you out of your guilt-induced self-defeating cycle of self-blame and help you to become whole.

About the Author

Alvaro Castillo has been helping with women with their pregnancy for 10 years along with how to deal with the first year of their baby’s life. For more information check out his website at www.myhomeparent.com

Anyone in California have a cheap english saddle set for sale?

I'm looking for a relatively cheap saddle for sale in California, a saddle set would be even better or if you have cheap other parts to saddle, that's even better.
I need:
Medium sized bridle for small 15hh TB
Reins
A regular snaffle bit
A 48" girth?
An English saddle (With need pads best, but I can endure without) w/ stirrup & leathers!

I just seen one on craigslist Inland Empire 16'' set don't remember what the girth size was but it came with two and pads 150.00. They have bridles on there all the time this one may have came with one but i wasn't paying attention. Your local tack or feed store will have bridles at a good price and snaffle bit. You could look online and they sell cheaper sets from 129.00 on up.

Socorro's Alguire is top-notch
Socorro native Frank Alguire is currently attending Mesalands Community College in Tucumcari where he competes on their rodeo team in bull riding and saddle bronc riding.

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